I like to call him Rishard. You can too if you want. Just don't tell him I said that.
Bryan (my husband) went to high school with Emily and Richard. Then they all came out here to go to college. At the end of our freshman year, Emily and I were both looking for roommates for the following year. Bryan hooked us up.
Next Bryan finished his mission and came home. He proposed to me not on my birthday. I said yes. We got married. Almost exactly a year after Richard and Emily. Who still wanted to have a baby.
Exactly a year later I found out I was pregnant. Bryan and I were so happy. So excited. I thought about how I would tell Emily. She still wanted to have a baby.
She was excited for us, but sad too. She and Richard still have no baby. That makes me sad too. Sometimes I think to myself, "If Emily and Richard were able to have a baby when they first wanted to, they would have a two year old now." It makes me sad to think about. Because in the past year they've seen some special doctors. And they now know what they didn't know when they first wanted to have a baby and that is this:
They can never have a baby.
Or at least, Emily will never be pregnant and complain about how her belly keeps her up at night and go to lunch with friends and casually swap labor stories. She wants that more than I can say. But she can't have it.
What she can still have is a baby. A son or daughter to raise up. Happy. To be a good person. She and Richard can read their child bedtime stories. And check for monsters in the closet. Emily can teach her daughter how to sew. Richard can teach his son to whittle. And scuba dive. Their family can still grow.
Emily and Richard are still waiting to be blessed with a baby. A son or a daughter that they will love their whole lives and forever.
Some people have babies that they love, but can't care for.
Adoption is a miracle. It brings those people together with people like Emily and Richard. It blesses the lives of everyone involved.
Maybe you know someone who might like to meet my friends. Maybe you are someone who might like to meet Emily and Richard. They want to love a baby forever. Maybe you know one they could love.
Look at their adoption blog. The button for it is now up in my left hand column. It will stay there until their dream of adoption comes true.
Or e-mail me at kathleenann08 (at) gmail (dot) com and I'll put you in touch with them.
And if you feel like there's nothing you can do to help, leave a comment here. Let them feel your love and hope.
Olivia is nine months old today. I look at her and feel so blessed. But I also look at her and think to myself, "Where is your friend, Olivia? Where is Emily and Richard's little girl or boy?"
Somewhere. Somewhere soon,